Support for the single father

One thing that’s clear to many now is that man, the boy child is no god. That’s the message that gender based activities have brought to the fore of my mind. Men are not superior; they are born of a woman just like we are, they suckle for nourishment, go through developmental milestones, they bleed, they have hearts, they have struggles and face fears, they have insecurities and they need.

They need guidance to be better humans, better men, better husbands, better fathers. Just because he stands before you, tall and proud with a booming voice doesn’t mean he automatically knows what to do and how to be responsible with who he is.

Single fathers need our support to learn how to be active in their children’s lives irregardless of what caused the rift between them and their child’s mother. They need to understand that they are not needed to be financial providers only, that even in the absence of financial capability, their presence and their love are good enough, more than that actually, they are needed. They need to be taught that creating a living breathing soul can not be brushed off. They need to understand consequences and understand that the women they impregnate and toss aside are not crazy or psycho, but are faced with the overwhelming responsibility of raising a child alone, the same responsibility they abandon. They need to understand the consequences of their absence.

Single fathers should be allowed to enjoy the joys of a child as well. By that alone hopefully the drive to be better and do better will be birthed in them.

Men are taught to be quasi-gods, purposely by culture and unintentionaly by gender bias. They need to be supported in being real. They bleed just like us, they cry just like us and they feel just like us. A man can be just as broke, as helpless and needy as a woman the same way a woman can be as powerful, resourceful and fearless as a man. We are all humans with different roles, we are vulnerable to similar fates so let’s support each other based on needs and not gender.

There are issues of whose the most vulnerable and and and but sometimes in our focus on one group we neglect the other; the unintended consequences of being one dimensional.